The earlier bedtime works much better. I know that sounds like what every kid says, but let me clarify. She doesn't cry at bedtime, she just won't sleep. Then, suddenly, a few weeks ago, he started fighting it. We have a normal routine where he takes a bath and we read a few books. I have an almost 4-year-old son that won’t go to bed at night. Any tips on how we can get him to go to bed on his own? We have a good bedtime routine in place that has always worked well for us. Up until a couple of weeks ago, he would go to bed consistently every night with no trouble. Good luck. He won't just go to bed by himself though. ! It’s important to address these issues as soon as possible. We start to get her ready for bed around 8pm. One of the biggest sleep problems among preschoolers is refusing to stay alone in their own bed at night. The problem of a child fighting sleep or not going to bed isn’t limited to the baby and toddler years. Your 4-year-old now Four-year-olds need about 11 1/2 to 12 hours of sleep a night. I know how frustrating this can be! Come 11pm when we go to sleep, she is still awake! I also started having her and her 2 year old sister get ready for bed earlier.

10 comments. He needs either mom to lay with him in his bed or have me (dad) lay with him in our bed.

4 Year Old Won't go to Sleep By Himself. Our 4 year old doesn't like to sleep. By 8:30 she is in her bed, and the lights are off. Again, she isn't crying and as far as we can tell she isn't afraid (she does like the hall light on and the door cracked, so … I finally stopped the naps and she is almost always ready for bed now! Refusing to go to bed or having trouble falling asleep can be an all-too-common problem for school-age children as well. We missed the good sleep window. We had been starting around 8 and I think that was just too late. Just leaving him in his room doesn't work as he will just cry and scream. My 4 year old was taking 1-2 hours to fall asleep.