In the narcissist family, as a means of survival everyone rotates around the narcissist, who is usually Mom or Dad.
A golden child may be selected because s/he is more tractable, while a scapegoat may be targeted because s/he is more independent-minded and therefore threatening. The Narcissist Family Structure – Let’s meet the Scapegoat, Golden Child, and Blacksheep Striking similarities abound in a narcissist family structure; so much so that by studying other narcissistic families, you will see the same situations and scenarios play out across the board. "The Golden Child can end up very engulfed by the Narcissistic Mother, and her life can end up being enmeshed in the Narcissistic Mother’s. Your parent showers him with praise, gifts, and probably money as well.
It seems to be that the Narcissistic Mother picks the Golden Child to be an extension of herself, onto whom she projects all her own supposed wonderfulness. S/he would be a little genius in mathematics, a genius in literature, and foreign languages. She may well grow without proper boundaries and proper self-identity. He is the family’s golden child. S/he loves studying. The scapegoat serves as the target of rage and the trash bin of blame, while the golden child functions as the pride and joy whose successes are celebrated and failures are airbrushed away or, through narcissist contortionism, attributed to the scapegoat. The Golden Child, as the name suggests, is the best and most wonderful child – at least in the eyes of the Narcissistic Mother. Compared to you he can do no wrong in the eyes of your narcissistic parent. Going to school would never be a problem or a nightmare for the golden child. There’s usually a “trophy" child, also referred to as “golden,” who fulfills the mother’s expectations perfectly, and is often just like her and is high in narcissistic traits. The narcissist parent assigns the roles of golden child and scapegoat to particular children for a range of reasons, both calculating and irrational. Your narcissistic sibling is likely enmeshed with your narcissistic parent. The Characteristics of a Golden Child 1. Sometimes both parents are narcissistic. Both are projections of the narcissist parent (or parents), false identities assigned to children who do their best with the roles cast them. The Golden Child can do …